Intellectual intelligence (IQ) is defined as “the ability of a person to use his/her intellect to study, reflect on or ask and answer questions with regard to a variety of different ideas”. In contrast, the concept of emotional intelligence (EQ), developed by Daniel Goleman, means the self-awareness that enables a person to recognize feelings and helps him/her manage his/her emotions (Goleman, as cited in BBCnews.com, 2004). Taking an undergraduate as an example, if IQ defines how smart an undergraduate is, EQ determines how he/she uses that blessing. An undergraduate is born with IQ and cultivated with EQ as he/she grows up. IQ and EQ actually contribute to an undergraduate through different ways.
Firstly, IQ helps an undergraduate to think and solve the academic problems. For example, as an undergraduate, the usual student needs to be independent in learning since the university is a place that requires a lot of self-study. In this case, he/she needs to study and solve the challenging academic problems with his/her IQ rather than easily getting solutions from professors. A high IQ provides an undergraduate the means to study wisely and effectively and hence achieve flying marks in his/her exams. However, having a good problem solving abilities or excellent academic results does not mean an undergraduate is competent in dealing with emotions or motivating him/herself.
EQ provides the undergraduate with an appropriate emotional stability to deal with the academic problems. In order to deal with the daily stress which most undergraduates have to face, it is important for them to have a high EQ to keep calm and alert. Undergraduates with high EQ are able to handle stress “constructively”, and find “emotional connections” easy to maintain (Zins, 2004). Developing one’s EQ can help the undergraduate access his/her innate intelligence and strengthen his/her empathy, which can also lead to academic advancement (DaikyOM, 2005). On the other hand, if an undergraduate is incapable of control his/her emotion, he/she may sabotage him/herself.
Secondly, IQ enriches an undergraduate’s life. It is undeniable that one of the best ways to enrich an undergraduate is through reading. While reading, he/she may ask and answer questions with regard to a variety of different ideas. IQ ensures the ability for an undergraduate to reflect on and understand the ideas of an author and makes good use of them. By this way, His/her life is enriched and his/her knowledge is widened through the reading and learning process.
However, there is a lot of knowledge to be learnt and experienced by an undergraduate, which he/she cannot find inside the books.
Therefore, it is very helpful for him/her to have a high EQ when communicating with others. EQ makes him/her more sociable. In fact, people are willing to befriend someone who can control his/her emotions well, as he/she has an easy-going personality that makes everyone feel at ease around him/her. With a high emotional intelligence, an undergraduate is capable of understanding the feelings of others. This capability hence makes an undergraduate easy to handle relationship well with others. Ethnically, an undergraduate with higher EQ is better at handling relationships of every kind comparing with those with lower EQ (Joseph, 2006). Hence, an Undergraduate with higher EQ tends to has higher quality friendships which make him/her more sociable.
In summary, IQ and EQ contribute to an undergraduate through different ways. IQ helps an undergraduate to think and solve the academic problems and enrich his/her life. In contrast, EQ provides the undergraduate with an appropriate emotional stability to deal with the academic problems and makes him/her more sociable. All things considered, I conclude that making good use of both IQ and EQ will contribute to the development of an undergraduate significantly throughout the years.
PS: I have developed my conclusion and also made some changes for structures as well as corrected some grammar mistakes.
Wednesday, November 7, 2007
Summary
Emotional intelligence within a family means parents being aware of their children's feelings, and being able to understand, soothe, and c0nduct them. And for children, they are able to control their emotion to cope with life’s ups and downs.
According to research on parent-child interactions, Children whose parents consistently practice Emotion Coaching have better physical health and score higher academically than children whose parents don't offer such guidance. Also, children whose parents use a coaching style of parenting are become more resilient. Emotion Coaching can even protect kids from the proven harmful effects of an increasingly common crisis for families-marital conflict and divorce.
Research also shows that father has an extremely positive impact on their children's emotional development. Emotion-Coaching parents can help their kids develop into healthier, more successful adults. At the same time, parents using Emotion Coaching will probably feel themselves growing emotionally closer to their children. Also, both parents and children are even more invested in their lives and can therefore assert a stronger influence to each other.
Since emotion Coaching to children requires a significant amount of commitment and patience between the coach and the children, parents is in the best spot for offer the guidance to their children.
PS: the original article is from http://www.newhorizons.org/strategies/emotional/front_emotional.htm
According to research on parent-child interactions, Children whose parents consistently practice Emotion Coaching have better physical health and score higher academically than children whose parents don't offer such guidance. Also, children whose parents use a coaching style of parenting are become more resilient. Emotion Coaching can even protect kids from the proven harmful effects of an increasingly common crisis for families-marital conflict and divorce.
Research also shows that father has an extremely positive impact on their children's emotional development. Emotion-Coaching parents can help their kids develop into healthier, more successful adults. At the same time, parents using Emotion Coaching will probably feel themselves growing emotionally closer to their children. Also, both parents and children are even more invested in their lives and can therefore assert a stronger influence to each other.
Since emotion Coaching to children requires a significant amount of commitment and patience between the coach and the children, parents is in the best spot for offer the guidance to their children.
PS: the original article is from http://www.newhorizons.org/strategies/emotional/front_emotional.htm
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Film Review -- " Roman Holiday"
“Roman Holiday” is one of the outstanding film that through the film history.
The charming Hepburn has her first starring role in this sweet romance, playing a European princess on an official tour through Rome. Frustrated by her lack of connection to the real world, she slips away from her protective handlers. Fatefully, she meets Joe Bradley who is an American newspaper reporter.
Because of him, she has unforgettable experience, living for one day as a normal person. She does all the things that she was not allowed to do before, such as cutting her hair, eating ice-cream, strolling down the streets and falling in love with an ordinary man -- Joe.
Andrey Hepburn as Princess Ann ('Anya Smith')
Joe Bradley, a young and charming journalist, is looking for news that might increase sales of his newspaper and bring some money in his pocket. At the beginning, he takes pictures of Princess Ann without her knowledge. However, in the end; he does not sell those photos to make money.
His relative "poverty" and Princess Ann's fabulous wealth and station present a barrier to their ever finding true love and happiness.
“Roman Holiday” is the film that brought Audrey Hepburn to prominence in Oscar, and the world movie audience went weak at the knees.
It is the natural and ingenuous performance that makes her such a charming and unforgettable character, a graceful presence on the screen. I have seen most of Miss Hepburn's movies and I can say that she was never more enchanting than she is here. She is gorgeous and cute at the same time, charming and impish, sweet, regal and very winning. This is the most romantic film I have ever seen. Instead of the woman finding that the man she is in love with has fabulous wealth and position, it is the other way around. The ending manages to be realistic yet romantic so that one can almost believe the story is true.
I believe that everyone of us would like to dream about what is like to be lost in the "eternal city" for one day and enjoy the simple things of life.
Sunday, September 9, 2007
Paragraph Assignment
A. Comparison – Contrast
What are the different ways in which intellectual intelligence and emotional intelligence contribute to the development of an undergraduate?
Intellectual intelligence is an ability of one who tries to use his/her intellect to work, study, speculate on or ask and answer questions with regard to a variety of different ideas. And Emotional intelligence is an ability, capability, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one’s self, of others, of groups. People are born with Intellectual Intelligence (IQ) and cultivated with Emotional Intelligence (EQ). As undergraduates, Intellectual intelligence and emotional intelligence actually contribute us through different ways.
Firstly, IQ helps the undergraduate to think and solve the problems while EQ provides an appropriate emotional stability to deal with the problems. For example, when we are at the university level, we need to be independent in learning since university is a place that requires a lot of self-study. In this case, we need to solve the challenging academic problems with our IQ rather than easily getting solutions from professors. Actually, they may realize how intelligent they are after solving those challenge academic problems. On the other hand, in order to deal with the daily stresses which an undergraduate may be faced, it is important for him/her to have a high EQ to keep calm and alert. Otherwise, his/her emotion will be out of control easily and results in negative effects.
Secondly, IQ enriches an undergraduate’s life while EQ makes him/her more sociable. It is undeniable that one of the best ways to enrich oneself is through reading. IQ ensures the undergraduate understand the ideas of the author and make use of them. However, there is a lot of knowledge to be learnt and experiences by an undergraduate, which he/she cannot find inside the books. Therefore, it is very helpful for him/her to have a high EQ when communicating with others. In fact, most of the people are willing to be friends with someone who can control his/her emotions well, as they may feel relaxed and being respected.
All in all, I should say that making good use of both intellectual intelligence and emotional intelligence will contribute to the development of an undergraduate significantly throughout the years.
What are the different ways in which intellectual intelligence and emotional intelligence contribute to the development of an undergraduate?
Intellectual intelligence is an ability of one who tries to use his/her intellect to work, study, speculate on or ask and answer questions with regard to a variety of different ideas. And Emotional intelligence is an ability, capability, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one’s self, of others, of groups. People are born with Intellectual Intelligence (IQ) and cultivated with Emotional Intelligence (EQ). As undergraduates, Intellectual intelligence and emotional intelligence actually contribute us through different ways.
Firstly, IQ helps the undergraduate to think and solve the problems while EQ provides an appropriate emotional stability to deal with the problems. For example, when we are at the university level, we need to be independent in learning since university is a place that requires a lot of self-study. In this case, we need to solve the challenging academic problems with our IQ rather than easily getting solutions from professors. Actually, they may realize how intelligent they are after solving those challenge academic problems. On the other hand, in order to deal with the daily stresses which an undergraduate may be faced, it is important for him/her to have a high EQ to keep calm and alert. Otherwise, his/her emotion will be out of control easily and results in negative effects.
Secondly, IQ enriches an undergraduate’s life while EQ makes him/her more sociable. It is undeniable that one of the best ways to enrich oneself is through reading. IQ ensures the undergraduate understand the ideas of the author and make use of them. However, there is a lot of knowledge to be learnt and experiences by an undergraduate, which he/she cannot find inside the books. Therefore, it is very helpful for him/her to have a high EQ when communicating with others. In fact, most of the people are willing to be friends with someone who can control his/her emotions well, as they may feel relaxed and being respected.
All in all, I should say that making good use of both intellectual intelligence and emotional intelligence will contribute to the development of an undergraduate significantly throughout the years.
B. Cause – Effect
Motivation, resilience, optimism, self-control, flexibility, etc. are attributes often associated with emotional intelligence. Choose one of these and discuss why it is an important trait for a fulfilling life.
There are a lot of attributes associated with emotional intelligence; one of them is self-control, which is an important trait for a fulfilling life. Self-control, just as its name implies, refers to restraint exercised over one's self or control of one's emotions, desires, or actions by one's own will.
An emotional intelligent person is able to control his/her emotions by his/her own will in order to have his/her head screwed on the right way. A fulfilling life in a sense means someone is able to adapt to the unpredictable society through accepting the differences and understanding the reality. Life does not go as what we expected. In fact, there are numerous unexpected encounters that make us down and up. Hence we need to be self—controlled in terms of keeping calm and confident to deal with those encounters and fulfill our life. Frankly, many people actually benefit from being self-controlled in the situations that are against their wishes.
In addition, self-control associated with emotional intelligence in terms of self discipline. Self discipline is the ability of the individual to stick to actions, thoughts, and behavior, which lead to improvement and success. Success makes our life fulfilling. However, a fulfilling life could be destroyed by lack of self-control. People are weak in saying “No’ to attractions like money. Even, there are people dare to do contraband for money though they know the serious consequences. For example, in some countries, the bribe activities are very common. The bribers make full use of their power to gain money without any self-discipline. As a result, most of them who used to be considered as successful in their career are ended in prisons. In this sense, a fulfilling life with success could be destroyed by lack of self-control.
Hence, I should conclude that being self-controlled is very important in leading a fulfilling life.
An emotional intelligent person is able to control his/her emotions by his/her own will in order to have his/her head screwed on the right way. A fulfilling life in a sense means someone is able to adapt to the unpredictable society through accepting the differences and understanding the reality. Life does not go as what we expected. In fact, there are numerous unexpected encounters that make us down and up. Hence we need to be self—controlled in terms of keeping calm and confident to deal with those encounters and fulfill our life. Frankly, many people actually benefit from being self-controlled in the situations that are against their wishes.
In addition, self-control associated with emotional intelligence in terms of self discipline. Self discipline is the ability of the individual to stick to actions, thoughts, and behavior, which lead to improvement and success. Success makes our life fulfilling. However, a fulfilling life could be destroyed by lack of self-control. People are weak in saying “No’ to attractions like money. Even, there are people dare to do contraband for money though they know the serious consequences. For example, in some countries, the bribe activities are very common. The bribers make full use of their power to gain money without any self-discipline. As a result, most of them who used to be considered as successful in their career are ended in prisons. In this sense, a fulfilling life with success could be destroyed by lack of self-control.
Hence, I should conclude that being self-controlled is very important in leading a fulfilling life.
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
My Life's Meaning
Life is a long term journey, in which I will always find something new that keeps me feel curious along the journey and hence willing to learn. My life’s meaning is nothing but enjoy learning.
Learning does not limit to gain acknowledge, learning could refer to discover a new aspect. In order to keep the life-style I like most, I always inspire myself to discover every aspects of the life as many as possible. The more I learnt, the more meaningful aspects I found about the my life
Learning is a life-long career, and the strong will of learning keep me looking forward and thinking positively. My life is full of colors and surprises. With the unstoppable learning, my life will be delighted significantly. While I am learning, I enjoy exploring the world of unknowns. There are a lot of amazements which enrich me.
Through the learning, I discovered the merit of myself, as well as the shortcomings. In fact, one of the reasons why I enjoy learning is to know the good and bad, the in and out, the heaven and hell.
Like what I used to say," no matter it is perplexed or calm. It is just a single aspect of me. I am learning little by little to make my life better and better."
P.S. I should say this is really a general question and I was wondering “what makes my life meaningful?” for a few days before I start writing. I believe that in different stage of one’s life, h/she will have different perspective of the meaning of his/her life.
Learning does not limit to gain acknowledge, learning could refer to discover a new aspect. In order to keep the life-style I like most, I always inspire myself to discover every aspects of the life as many as possible. The more I learnt, the more meaningful aspects I found about the my life
Learning is a life-long career, and the strong will of learning keep me looking forward and thinking positively. My life is full of colors and surprises. With the unstoppable learning, my life will be delighted significantly. While I am learning, I enjoy exploring the world of unknowns. There are a lot of amazements which enrich me.
Through the learning, I discovered the merit of myself, as well as the shortcomings. In fact, one of the reasons why I enjoy learning is to know the good and bad, the in and out, the heaven and hell.
Like what I used to say," no matter it is perplexed or calm. It is just a single aspect of me. I am learning little by little to make my life better and better."
P.S. I should say this is really a general question and I was wondering “what makes my life meaningful?” for a few days before I start writing. I believe that in different stage of one’s life, h/she will have different perspective of the meaning of his/her life.
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